Category: Unplanned Pregnancy

  • May is Teen Pregnancy Awareness Month. What can you do?

    May is Teen Pregnancy Awareness Month. What can you do?

    According to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, nearly 3 in 10 girls will become pregnant before the age of 20. In 2012, 305,388 teens (ages 15-19) gave birth. Meanwhile, about 18% of women obtaining abortions are teenagers (i.e. about 200,000). Due to these high numbers, many people are rightly concerned about the need for education and resources for these young women. How do we prevent teen pregnancy from happening in the first place? How do we teach teens to be responsible in their relationships so that they may make healthy decisions (for their bodies and their hearts)? How do we provide resources that will support a teen in her decision to choose life for her child?

    May is Teen Pregnancy Awareness Month. This month, students are encouraged to get involved in efforts to educate their peers. Parents, teachers, mentors and leaders are encouraged to seriously address the issues that our youth are challenged with in relationships with the opposite sex. We encourage you to focus on abstinence education and to teach your peers the importance of mutual respect in relationships.  Hidden Choices challenges students and adults to truthfully talk about sex and what we can all do to address the issue of teen pregnancy and teen parenting.  The choice is yours to say NO to early and unhealthy sex. Your help is needed TODAY to raise awareness on this critical issue!

     

  • A Mother’s Day Beginning

    A Mother’s Day Beginning

    According to History.com, celebrations of mothers and motherhood can be traced back to the ancient Greeks and Romans, who held festivals in honor of the mother goddesses Rhea and Cybele, but the clearest modern precedent for Mother’s Day is the early Christian festival known as “Mothering Sunday.” Once a major tradition in the United Kingdom and parts of Europe, this celebration fell on the fourth Sunday in Lent and was originally seen as a time when the faithful would return to their “mother church”—the main church in the vicinity of their home—for a special service. Over time the Mothering Sunday tradition shifted into a more secular holiday, and children would present their mothers with flowers and other tokens of appreciation. This custom eventually faded in popularity before merging with the American Mother’s Day in the 1930s and 1940s.

    Did You Know?

    More phone calls are made on Mother’s Day than any other day of the year. These holiday chats with Mom often cause phone traffic to spike by as much as 37 percent.

    This week, Hidden Choices honors mother’s by saying “thank you” to life! Without mother’s, where would this world be? We celebrate motherhood and remember all who have given sacrificially, courageously and lovingly to the human race.  I know that sounds so, well, trivial – but there is nothing trivial about mothers.  They are, for the most part, the glue that holds everything together.

    Today Hidden Choices honors the young, single mothers who are courageously choosing the “road less traveled” to give birth in humble, simple circumstances.  They are young by the world’s standards, but most are making the hard adult choices not to abort. They are the heroes of Hidden Choices and choosing human dignity by focusing on the right choices of giving life to their children.  Thank you for the making the “choice” to grow our human family! Happy Mother’s Day!

  • Are you facing an unplanned pregnancy?

    Are you facing an unplanned pregnancy?

    Are you sitting here right now thinking, “Oh My God, what do I do?”

    I know you may be in shock, feeling scared, confused, angry, and alone.

    What are my parents going to say?  What will my boyfriend say?  No one can know.

    You are going to be okay.  And your baby is going to be okay.  BOTH of you are LOVED by God and He has a purpose for BOTH of you.

    Don’t go anywhere.  Please listen to my story.  It wasn’t that long ago.

    I was curled on the sofa in our family’s living room the day my mother sat down beside me & asked the question that would shatter my hopes for my sophomore year of high school.

    “Kim, have you ever had sex?”  My response was immediate!  “No!”  It was also a lie.  I was 16 years old & although my mother had always encouraged me to come to her when I started thinking about having sex, that was just something moms said, right?  What teenage girl actually wants to have that conversation?  What mother, for that matter?  My mom, however, was an ob/gyn.  She knew the signs of pregnancy & recognized what I had not even been able to admit to myself.  I had been to the doctor earlier that day because I wasn’t feeling well.  She had them run a pregnancy test after I left…

    I will never forget the words that came out of her mouth.  “Honey, I think you’re pregnant.”

    I felt my stomach drop, the way it does on a roller coaster.  My heart beat faster, panicked.  Me, pregnant?  My head filled with reasons why this couldn’t be.  I’m 16.  I’m a track star.  I’m a straight A students.  I don’t do drugs.  I had sex with my boyfriend three times.  You have got to be kidding me!  As I sat on my living room sofa, I was speechless.

    Then all of a sudden I started screaming.  I can’t remember what I was screaming bc all I could hear was the rushing in my ears, like a vacuum sucking up the life I had planned.  After months of ignoring signs my clothes became unbearably tight.

    Hysterical, unable to accept this new reality, I continued to scream.  “Oh my God! Oh my God!  Oh my God!” I jumped off the sofa & started literally running from room to room thru the house… as if I could physically move away from the truth.  My mom followed me from the family room to the kitchen, to the family room, to the den… she tried to calm me but it just wasn’t happening.

    Is any of this sounding familiar to you?

    Once I began to calm down my mother helped me upstairs, and immediately I started thinking about my birthmother.  She was 16 years old when she gave birth to me.  She decided to give me life & place me for adoption.  I have always been so thankful for her decision; however, I never imagined I would face the same adversity 16 years later.

    My initial thoughts were that there was no way I could carry my baby to term.  It was bad enough that my mom knew… but the thought of my dad, my sister, my friends, my family finding out- yikes, no way!

    Then my mom proceeded to tell me about my options.  She told me my first option was to terminate the pregnancy but that I was already 5 ½ months along… seriously, 5 months.  I closed my eyes & let go of my original plan.  I knew that I could not & would not terminate this pregnancy.

    “Your second option is to have & raise this baby.”

    Just as quickly I knew this was not going to work either.  I wanted to finish high school with my friends, graduate college, become a teacher & a small business owner, marry the man of my dreams & have two children of our own!

    She then told me I could have my baby & place it for adoption.  She told me that she & dad would support whatever decision I made.  Before she could even finish speaking I had made up my mind.  I would have my baby & place it for adoption.  I didn’t know what the God had planned for me, my baby & my future but I knew He would take care of us.

    Have you considered adoption?   With adoption, you are in the driver’s seat.  There are agencies & maternity homes available to help you walk thru this process.  Your courage & selflessness can bring a lifetime of joy to a couple who otherwise may never have a family.

    YOU can choose the adoptive parents, YOU can choose the openness of your future relationship with them!  The future is in your hands!  Does that sound empowering or what?!

    The day my son, Christopher, was born I will never forget.  I held him all night long.  The nurses would come in urging me to put him down so I could sleep.  But I knew that I could sleep later.  I couldn’t put him down.  I stared at him while he slept, I stared at him while he ate, I stared at him staring right back at me.

    He knew who I was.  He knew that I loved him more than anything else in the world.  The morning came quickly.  I will tell you I had been dreading this day for months.

    I had picked out an outfit just for him!  His adoptive parents loved baseball… so I thought a baby blue & white baseball onesie with matching cap would be just perfect.  My mom & sister took picture of me & Christopher so we could leave them with his parents.

    In the sadness & grief that followed Christopher’s birth & adoption I knew that God had plans for both of us.  But the loss was still difficult.  I am not going to lie.  I cried lots & lots.  I cried myself to sleep over & over.  I would carry around a box of his things… his first pacifier, first blanket, his hospital blankets.  I’ll tell you what…no one was going to take these things from me.  But in time, the pain lessened.  I received updates & pictures in the mail.  In time I began to smile when they arrived.  He was beautiful & healthy & spoiled rotten

    Needless to say, I survived high school.  I went on to graduate college with a degree in Business & marry my best friend & college sweetheart.  We became pregnant with our first son shortly after we married.  I can’t remember being more excited!  I was pregnant with a baby that would be ours forever!! I would see his first step, I would see his first little league game, I would watch his graduations & his walk down the aisle with his bride.

    On the day our son, Shawn-Michael was born I couldn’t help but think of Christopher.  I had held him in this same hospital nine years earlier.  And it felt right that Christopher’s mom had experienced a similar beautiful moment with her son.  Now, it was my turn.

    I am grateful that I was able to experience motherhood for the first time with joy & hope rather than fear & anxiety.

    Your life is NOT over.  You have options.

    I dare you to be a hero!  Be bold.  Be courageous.  Consider Adoption.

  • Teen Pregnancy Impact On Nations

    Teen Pregnancy Impact On Nations

    According to research by The Medical Institute the impact  of teen pregnancies is wreaking havoc on the health of our youth.  Below are FAQ  & statistics co

    Frequently Asked Questions

    1. What is the impact of nonmarital teenage pregnancy?
    2. Generally speaking, how old are males who father nonmarital births?
    3. How serious is the sexually transmitted infection epidemic?
    4. What is the difference between “reported” and “estimated” STI cases?
    5. How many STIs are there and what are their names?
    6. How many people in America are infected with an STI? Are many of those who are infected adolescents?
    7. What makes adolescent females so susceptible to STIs?
    8. What is meant by “consistent” condom use?
    9. I heard that there are 6 steps to correct condom use. What are they?
    10. How effective are condoms in preventing STIs?
    11. What can be done about the epidemics of STIs and nonmarital pregnancy facing our country?
    12. What is abstinence?
    13. What is secondary virginity?
    14. Should parents discuss sex with their teens?
    15. Which viral STIs are curable and which are incurable?
    16. What is the difference between sexually transmitted infection (STI) and sexually transmitted disease (STD)?

    What is the impact of nonmarital teenage pregnancy?

    According to recent studies, one out of every three females in the US gets pregnant at least once before the age of 20. This results in over 800,000 teen pregnancies each year. Three out of every ten of these pregnancies ends in abortion. Non-marital teenage pregnancies are life-affecting for the mother, father, child, extended family and society.Teen parents are more likely than other teens to:

      • – drop out of school
      • – have additional out-of-wedlock children
      • – change jobs
      • – be on welfare
      • – have mental and physical health problemsChildren born to teens are at increased risk for:
      • – low birth weight
      • – lower cognitive scores
      • – school failure
      • – becoming teenage parents
      • – incarceration
      • – drug abuseReferences:
      • (1) The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. 14 and Younger, The Sexual Behavior of Young Adolescents. Washington, DC: The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy; May 2003. Available at http://www.teenpregnancy.org. Accessed August 15, 2005.
      • (2) National Center for Health Statistics. Births: Final data for 2002. National Vital Statistics Reports. 2003;52(10). Hyattsville, MD: National Center for Health Statistics, US Dept of Health and Human Services; 2003. Available at: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr52/nvsr52_10.pdf. Accessed August 26, 2005.
      • (3) Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Abortion Surveillance – United States, 2000. MMWR 2003;52(SS-12). Atlanta, GA: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, US Dept of Health and Human Services; 2003. Available at: http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/PDF/SS/SS5212.pdf. Accessed August 26, 2005.
      • (4) Coley RL, Chase-Lansdale PL. Adolescent pregnancy and parenthood: Recent evidence and future directions. Am Psychol. 1998;53(2):152-166.
      • (5) US General Accounting Office. Teen Mothers: Selected Socio-Demographic Characteristics and Risk Factors. Washington, DC: US General Accounting Office; June 1998. GAO/HEHS-98-141. Available at: http://www.hi-ho.ne.jp/taku77/refer/teenmo.pdf. Accessed August 26, 2005.

     Generally speaking, how old are males who father nonmarital births?

      • Nonmarital teenage pregnancies and births often result from relationships with males who are substantially older than the teen mother. In fact, the pregnancy rate in teens with older partners is 4 times the rate in girls whose partner is close in age.Some of the most specific statistics extant are from an older 1992 California report which showed that:
      • 30% of all pregnant teens had a male partner 3 – 5 years older
      • 20% of all pregnant teens had a male partner 6 or more years older
      • Males aged 20 years or older father five times as many births among middle school aged-girls as middle school-aged boys

    How serious is the sexually transmitted infection epidemic?

    1. For many reasons, it is difficult to determine either the exact prevalence (number of currently infected persons) or incidence (number of new cases per year) of sexually transmitted infections.However the STI incidence rate was estimated at 18.9 million per year for the year 2000 – a 6 million increase over the 1996 estimate.[2]Below are incidence and prevalence rate estimates for specific STIs in 2000:[2]

     STI Incidence Prevalence
    HPV 5.5 million 20 million
    trichomonas 5 million unknown
    chlamydia 3 million 2 million
    genital herpes 1 million 45 million
    gonorrhea 650,000 unknown
    hepatitis B 120,000 417,000
    syphilis 70,000 unknown
    HIV 43,000 930,000(3)

    References:
    (1) Weinstock H, Berman S, Cates W, Jr. Sexually transmitted infections among American youth: incidence and prevalence estimates, 2000. Perspect Sex Reprod Health.;36(1):6-10.
    (2) Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Tracking the hidden epidemics 2000: Trends in STIs in the United States. Atlanta, GA: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, US Dept of Health and Human Services; 2000. Available at: http://www.cdc.gov/nchstp/od/news/RevBrochure1pdftoc.htm. Accessed August 15, 2005.
    (3) Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. HIV/AID Surveillance Report, 2003. Atlanta, GA: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, US Dept of Health and Human Services; 2003. Available at: http:www.cdc.gov/hiv/stats/2003SurveillanceReport.pdf. Accessed August 4, 2005.

     What is the difference between “reported” and “estimated” STI cases?

    1. “Reported” STI cases are those for which the results of a medical test have been reported at the local, state or federal level. While STI reporting requirements and mechanisms have improved, they do have limitations. Even the best national STI reporting system falls far short of determining the actual number of STI cases. Here are some of the reasons:- Many STIs cause no symptoms at all or result in “delayed” symptoms
      – For a variety of reasons, even when they have symptoms of an STI, some persons still don’t seek medical care
      o They may not know where to go
      o They may not have the financial resources to pay for treatment
      o They may deny that they have symptoms

    – Doctors often treat patients for STIs without performing a laboratory test that would help them make a specific diagnosis
    – Doctors and laboratories may fail to report patients with laboratory-confirmed STIs

    Public health officials are highly aware of the limitations of the reporting system, and consider all of these factors when they “estimate” the number of STI cases.

    For example, although just over 877, 000 cases of chlamydia were reported in 2003, the estimated number of new chlamydia infections is more than three million.[1]

    Reference:
    (1) Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Sexually Transmitted Infection Surveillance, 2003. Atlanta, GA: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention; September 2004. Available at: http://www.cdc.gov/sti/stats/03pdf/Survtext.pdf. Accessed August 26, 2005.

    How many STIs are there and what are their names?

    1. The number of STIs (sexually transmitted infections) will vary depending on what is counted as an STI and whether sexually transmissible infections are also counted. The Medical Institute uses a list of STIs that is adapted from chapter headings in a standard STI textbook (usually referred to by the name of its primary editor, KK Holmes). This list, which appears below in alphabetical order, has 29 different infections.

      Bacterial:
      1 bacterial vaginosis
      2 campylobacteriosis
      3 chancroid
      4 chlamydia
      5 Donovanosis
      6 gonorrhea
      7 lymphogranuloma venereum
      8 mycoplasmas, genital
      9 salmonellosis
      10 syphilis
      11 treponematoses, endemicEctoparasitic:
      12 lice, pubic
      13 scabiesFungal:
      14 candidiasis, vulvovaginal
    2. Protozoal:
      15 amebiasis
      16 cryptosporidium
      17 giardiasis
      18 trichomoniasisViral:
      19 cytomegalovirus
      20 Epstein Barr virus
      21 hepatitis A
      22 hepatitis B
      23 hepatitis C
      24 hepatitis D
      25 herpes simplex virus (HSV-1 & HSV-2)
      26 human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)
      27 human papillomavirus (HPV)
      28 human T-cell lymphotropic virus (HTLV-1)
      29 molluscum contagiosum
    3. Reference:
    4. Holmes KK, Sparling PF, Mardh P, et al. Sexually Transmitted Infections. 3rd ed. New York, NY: McGraw Hill; 1999:vi-vii. (chapter headings).

     

    How many people in America are infected with an STI? Are many of those who are infected adolescents?

    1. In 2004, it was estimated that in 2000 there were
      – 18.9 million new cases of STIs
      – 68 million total cases of STIs – a combination of new and chronic cases.About half of the new cases occurred among 15- to 24-year-olds. Three STIs (human papillomavirus, trichomoniasis and chlamydia) accounted for 88% of all new cases of STI among 15- to 24-year-olds.Reference:
      Weinstock H, Berman S, Cates W, Jr. Sexually transmitted infections among American youth: incidence and prevalence estimates, 2000. Perspect Sex Reprod Health. 2004;36(1):6-10.
    2. What makes adolescent females so susceptible to STIs?
      In all females the cervix is covered with 2 cell types—epithelial (skin-like) cells and columnar (like the cells lining the intestine) cells. In mature females, the outer part of the cervix (ie, the part the doctor sees when he or she looks at the cervix to obtain cells for a PAP smear) is covered with multiple layers of hardy (squamous) epithelial cells, and the upper part inside the cervical canal is lined with fragile columnar cells. Where the 2 cell types meet is referred to as the squamocolumnar (SC) junction. The location of this junction varies considerably between adolescents/young females and mature females. Adolescents/young females have a normal condition referred to as ectopy. With ectopy, the junction between the 2 cell types is somewhere on the outer cervix (where a physician could see it on pelvic exam) rather than inside the cervical canal. The more ectopy there is, the larger the diameter of fragile columnar cells on the outer exposed surface of the cervix. In addition to being highly susceptible to STIs, the exposed columnar and SC junction cells are more easily transformed into precancerous cells or into cancer if infected with human papillomavirus.
    3. What is meant by “consistent” condom use?
      Consistent condom use means using a condom 100% of the time during every sex act.  Few individuals actually manage to use condoms consistently and correctly for any length of time. Typical condom use is inconsistent. Studies have shown that even in couples in which one partner is known to be infected with HIV, consistent use was attained by only 45% of the participants.[1]

    How do teens fare? A study conducted over a period of six months found that “always” condom use was reported by adolescent females only 13% of the time.[2] In another study, just 50% of females reported consistent condom use.[3] Generally, adolescent males report slightly more condom use than females.[4]

    Unfortunately, inconsistent use provides little to no risk reduction for most STIs. According to NIH panel on condom effectiveness, even if 100% consistent condom use could be attained, it would not totally eliminate the risk of acquiring any sexually transmitted infection, including HIV.[5]

    References:
    (1) Buchacz K, van der Straten A, Saul J, Shiboski SC, Gomez CA, Padian N. Sociodemographic, behavioral, and clinical correlates of inconsistent condom use in HIV-serodiscordant heterosexual couples. J Acquir Immune Defic Syndr. 2001;28(3):289-297.
    (2) Bunnell RE, Dahlberg L, Rolfs R, et al. High prevalence and incidence of sexually transmitted infections in urban adolescent females despite moderate risk behaviors. J Infect Dis. 1999;180(5):1624-1631.
    (3) Crosby RA, DiClemente RJ, Wingood GM, Lang D, Harrington KF. Value of consistent condom use: a study of sexually transmitted infection prevention among African American adolescent females. Am J Public Health. 2003;93(6):901-902.
    (4) Sonenstein F, Ku L, Lindberg L, Turner C, Pleck J. Changes in sexual behavior and condom use among teenaged males: 1988 to 1995. Am J Public Health. 1998;88(6):956-959.
    (5) National Institutes of Health. Workshop Summary: Scientific Evidence on Condom Effectiveness for Sexually Transmitted Infection Prevention. Bethesda, MD: National Institutes of Health, US Dept of Health and Human Services; 2001. Available at: http://www.niaid.nih.gov/dmid/stis/condomreport.pdf. Accessed August 26, 2005.

    I heard that there are 6 steps to correct condom use. What are they?

    According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the following are the “six steps to correct condom use.”

     1. Use a new condom with each act of sexual intercourse.
    2. Carefully handle the condom to avoid damaging it with fingernails, teeth or other sharp objects.
    3. Put the condom on after the penis is erect and before any genital contact with the partner.
    4. Use only water-based lubricants with latex condoms. Oil-based lubricants can weaken latex.
    5. Ensure adequate lubrication during intercourse, possibly requiring the use of exogenous lubricants.
    6. Hold the condom firmly against the base of the penis during withdrawal, and withdraw while the penis is still erect to prevent slippage.

    Almost no studies actually measure correct condom use. In theory, condom effectiveness against STI transmission is further diminished if a condom is used incorrectly. In a study of college males, more than a third reported major errors in condom use over a three-month time period, despite having received instructions on correct use.

    References:
    (1) Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Sexually transmitted infections treatment guidelines 2002. MMWR 2002;51(RR-06). Atlanta, GA: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, US Dept. of Health and Human Services; 2003. Available at: http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/PDF/RR/RR5106.pdf. Accessed August 25, 2005.
    (2) Crosby RA, Sanders SA, Yarber WL, Graham CA, Dodge B. Condom use errors and problems among college men. Sex Transm Dis. 2002;29(9):552-557.

    How effective are condoms in preventing STIs?

    • Condom breakage and slippage is estimated to occur 1-4% of the time. This is known as method failure.

    By far the most extensive research on condom effectiveness has been done for HIV. A number of authors have performed meta-analyses (summaries) of other studies. These meta-analyses show that with 100% consistent condom use, condoms reduce the risk of HIV transmission by about 85%.[4] Condom effectiveness against transmission of bacterial diseases like gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis is significantly lower than for HIV.[2] Conclusive evidence is lacking for condom effectiveness against transmission of several other specific STIs, such as HPV and T. vaginalis, which each affect over 5 million people annually.[2] Finally, effectiveness is seriously limited for the many STIs which are transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, since condoms do not cover all the areas of the body which may be the source of transmission.

    The major factor affecting “condom effectiveness” is not method failure, over which the user has no control, but user failure — the incorrect and inconsistent use of condoms during sexual acts.

    References:
    (1) Steiner M, Dominik R, et al. Contraceptive Effectiveness of a polyurethane condom and a latex condom: a randomized controlled trial. Obstet Gynecol. 2003;101(3):539-547.
    (2) National Institutes of Health. Workshop Summary: Scientific Evidence on Condom Effectiveness for Sexually Transmitted Infection Prevention. Bethesda, MD: National Institutes of Health, US Dept of Health and Human Services; 2001. Available at: http://www.niaid.nih.gov/dmid/stis/condomreport.pdf. Accessed August 26, 2005.
    (3) Frezieres RG, Walsh TL, Nelson AL, Clark VA, Coulson AH. Evaluation of the efficacy of a polyurethane condom: results from a randomized, controlled, clinical trial. Fam Plann Perspect. 1999;31(2):81-87.
    (4) Macaluso M, Kelaghan J, Artz L, et al. Mechanical failure of the latex condom in a cohort of women at high STI risk. Sex Transm Dis. 1999;26(8):450-458.

     

    What can be done about the epidemics of STIs and nonmarital pregnancy facing our country? Are teens really listening?

    People who postpone sexual activity until marriage to an uninfected partner are completely protected from STIs and nonmarital pregnancy. If this behavior choice (ie, abstinence) were to become normative again, it is likely that these epidemics would be reversed.

    There is evidence that many teens are getting this message. According to Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance data, over half of teens in high school are not having sexual intercourse. From 1991 through 2001 the number of teens not having sexual intercourse increased from 46% to 54%. Additionally, the number of teens with four or more lifetime partners decreased significantly from 1991 to 2001.[1] Most adolescents will postpone sexual activity (become or remain abstinent) with proper instruction and encouragement, especially from parents.

    Reference:
    (1) Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Sexually transmitted infections treatment guidelines 2002. MMWR 2002;51(RR-06). Atlanta, GA: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, US Dept. of Health and Human Services; 2003. Available at: http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/PDF/RR/RR5106.pdf. Accessed August 25, 2005.

    What is abstinence?

    Abstinence is refraining from all sexual activity.

    Sexual activity means sex as well as other actions intended to result in sexual arousal or gratification.

    – Sex includes penile-vaginal, anal and oral sex.
    – Other actions intended to result in sexual arousal or gratification, include, but not limited to, masturbation, mutual masturbation, fondling, the use of sex toys and the viewing of pornography.

    Abstinence is the healthiest behavior for unmarried individuals.

    What is secondary virginity?

    “Secondary virginity” is a return to abstinence following sexual debut. A commitment to secondary virginity is often made with the goal of remaining abstinent until committed to a life-long monogamous relationship, such as marriage. Increasing numbers of teens and young adults are making this decision to reduce their considerable risk for sexually transmitted infections and nonmarital pregnancies. Parents, peers, family physicians, youth directors, teachers and health educators all play important roles in encouraging sexually active youth to turn to abstinence.

    Should parents discuss sex with their teens?

    Absolutely. Multiple studies demonstrate that parent-child communication has an important protective effect on adolescent sexual behavior.Parents need to be actively involved with their teens and take time to clearly communicate their own values and expectations.

    – Teens who feel close to their parents are much less likely to engage in risky behavior.
    – Teens whose parents express disapproval of nonmarital sex and contraceptive use are less likely than their peers to have sex.
    – Teens who talk to a parent about sex tend to wait to have sex, have fewer sexual partners, and are more likely to name a parent than a peer as a good source of information about sex.

    References:
    (1) Karofsky PS, Zeng L, Kosorok MR. Relationship between adolescent-parental communication and initiation of first intercourse by adolescents. J Adolesc Health. 2000;28(1):41-45.
    (2) Resnick M, Bearman D, Blum R, et al. Protecting adolescents from harm. Findings from the national longitudinal study on adolescent health. JAMA. 1997;278(10):823-832.
    (3) DiIorio C, Kelley M, Hockenberry-Eaton M. Communication about sexual issues: mothers, fathers, and friends. J Adolesc Health. 1999;24(3):181-189.
    (4) Jaccard J, Dittus P, Gordon V. Parent-teen communication about premarital sex: factors associated with the extent of communication. J of Adolesc Res. 2000;15(2):187-208.
    (5) Lederman RP, Chan W, Roberts-Gray C. Sexual risk attitudes and intentions of youth aged 12-14 years: survey comparisons of parent-teen prevention and control groups. Behav Med. Winter 2004;29(4):155-163.
    (6) Whitaker D, Miller K. Parent-adolescent discussions about sex and condoms: impact on peer influences of sexual risk behavior. J Adolesc Res. 2000;15(2): 51-273.

    Are viral STIs curable? Which STI’s are incurable?

    Herpes and HIV: These are the only two viral STIs which are always chronic. Even though people with herpes or HIV cannot currently be cured, their symptoms can be treated.

    HPV: In females, 70-90% of HPV infections are cleared by the body’s immune system within 12-24 months of detection.[1-2] Those who are infected with high-risk (cancer-causing) HPV types and do not clear their infection quickly are at risk for persistent infection. There is no cure for persistent HPV. Persistant HPV infection is a risk factor for the development of cervical cancer. All woman should have routine pap smears by age 21. Females who initiate sex before 18 should consult their doctor.[3]

    Hepatitis B: Most adults who are infected with hepatitis B virus (HBV) recover from their infections; the remainder develop chronic infections.[4]

    Hepatitis C: Approximately 15% of those who are infected with hepatitis C virus (HBV) recover from their infection; however the vast majority develop chronic infections.[5]

    References:
    (1) Moscicki, A. Cervical cytology screening in teens. Curr Womens Health Rep. 2003;3(6):433-437.
    (2) Ho GY, Bierman R, Beardsley L, et al. National history of cervicovaginal papillomavirus in young women. N Engl J Med. 1998;338(7):423-428.
    (3) ACOG Guidelines.
    (4) Lemon SM, Alter MJ. Viral Hepatitis. In: Holmes KK, et al. Sexually Transmitted Diseases. 3rd ed. New York, NY: McGraw Hill; 1999:361-384.
    (5) Watts DH. Hepatitis C, D, and E in pregnancy. In: Mead PB, Hager WD, Faro S, eds. Protocols for infectious Diseases in Obstetrics and Gynecology. 2nd ed. Malden, MA: Blackwell Science; 2000:215-224.

    What is the difference between sexually transmitted infection (STI) and sexually transmitted disease (STD)?

    These terms are often confused, but they are not inter-changeable. Sexually transmitted infection is the broadest term. All STDs are STIs, but not all STIs are STDs.

    Sexually Transmitted Infection: Invasion of and multiplication in bodily tissue by a microorganism (eg, bacterium, virus, protozoan) that is usually (more than half the time) passed from one person to another during during intimate bodily contact meant to give or derive sexual gratification.

    Sexually Transmitted Disease: Pathology (ie, damage) with or without symptoms secondary to an infection that is usually (more than half the time) passed from one person to another during intimate bodily contact meant to give or derive sexual gratification.

     

  • Consequences of Teenage Pregnancy

    Consequences of Teenage Pregnancy

    The Problem: The future does not often hold great promise for a teenage mother and her child. Complex issues and problems are plaguing our communities: fatherlessness,  homelessness, abandonment, poverty, health issues, lack of education, job skills and health issues effect our teens in America – black and white.

    • Two out of three pregnant teenagers drop out of school.
    • With education cut short, the teenage mother lacks critical job skills.
    • The income of teen mothers is half that of those who first gave birth in their 20s and most all live below poverty levels.
    • The teenage mother may become financially dependent on her family or on welfare. Teenage marriages have a much greater chance of ending in divorce.

    STOP Now STOP Now STOP Now STOP Now GET THE FACTS TEENS

    • Babies born to young teen mothers have a higher risk of serious health problems.
    • Physical and mental birth defects affect many babies born to very young women. The high rate of teenagers having babies is a national health and social problem that demands attention.
    • 560,000 teenage girls give birth each year.  Almost 1/6 of all U.S. births are to teenage low income and impoverished women

    Health Risks of Pregnancy to the Teenage Mother

    The teenage mother has special problems, physically and emotionally.

    • The death rate from pregnancy complications is much higher among girls who give birth under age 15 than among older mothers.
    • The teenage mother is more likely to be undernourished and suffer premature or prolonged labor
    • During the first TRIMESTER of pregnancy; 7 out of 10 pregnant teenagers do not see a doctor or go to a clinic.
    •  Poor eating habits,  smoking,  alcohol & drugs increase the risk of having a baby with health problems.

    Decision Time

    Unplanned pregnancy does not mean making uninformed decisions.  Hidden Choices wants to help you understand some of your options!

    Ask yourself the following questions first…

    • Am I ready to become a parent?
    • What if the father of my baby is not involved?
    • How much say or legal right does the birth father have?
    • Can I continue working toward my personal goals through pregnancy and after the baby is born?
    • Will having a baby change my life?
    • How will I finish school, or get a job or be with my friends?
    • Do I have enough money to pay for child care, diapers, clothes and other baby things? A crib and food for my child to flourish?
    • Where will I live?  How will I live?  Do I have enough money to live alone with my baby?  Can I afford a car, insurance and new tires?  What if my car breaks down? What if I have to take public transportation to child care and then a job?
    • What will my child think of me if I choose adoption?
    • Do I want my child to grow up with a life like mine at this age?
  • How To Succeed As A Teenage Parent

    How To Succeed As A Teenage Parent

    5 Tips On How To Succeed In Life

    Success can be measured in many ways. The world would say that success is money, cars, glamour, good looks, big house and job, but countless young teen moms know that it takes hard work to juggle two to three jobs, provide quality and safe day care, ride mass transit to and from errands and find the right community services that support single parenting. They also say that success is measured in happiness, peace and finding love in all the right places. It is a formula for character building and success in every venue for life – from home life to the office, personal well being for health in body, soul and spirit. It is about inner beauty and strength to guide you through life. Even if you struggle through an unplanned pregnancy, success is within reach. What does success mean to you?

    1. Find a passion that you love
    2. Learn how to give and receive forgiveness
    3. Be strengthened and have the courage to overcome the obstacles of life
    4. Find good and valuable friendships
    5. Gain confidence by dealing with problems. Don’t run away – retool your direction!

    Now this short list will get you started on your successful story of life. Tell us how you have overcome! CLICK HERE

    So, you all know the now famous CEO of Apple computers and Pixar Animation, Steve Jobs. Did you also know that he was adopted and rather than fail his freshman year in college he dropped out? Working in his garage led to success in a most unbelievable way. Read about what he had to say on success. READ MORE

    The true story of Becky is about her unplanned pregnancy and how she helps other teen girls in crisis pregnancy choose life and deal with life with its pressures of school, friends, boyfriends and family. You will find blogs to just talk it out! See “Becky’s Story” READ MORE

  • What Is A Maternity Home?

    What Is A Maternity Home?

    What is a Maternity Home?

    Because of our own daughters unplanned pregnancy as a college freshman, we heard about a maternity home in Texas through a family friend. I did not know these residences existed, but her father and I wanted her to be in a safe environment where she could continue with her life out of the fishbowl of our town and continue with her college education as she planned for the birth of her child. It was a place we hoped she would be able to make the decision of adoption or choose a parenting plan. She would have to make the very adult decision at the young age of 19.

    “Maternity group homes today are very different from the large institutional settings that held 30-50 women who went to have their babies in secret,” says Rivers Teske, Founder & President of Hidden Choices, an organization that has gathered information and resources for young women facing an unplanned pregnancy the last 16 years. In the 1990’s there was little or no information or connection to help a family facing a crisis pregnancy. Hidden Choices has identified over 350 maternity homes nationwide since then and provides a user friendly map to locate a maternity home in close proximity to major cities in 47 States .

    What is a Maternity Home?

    Many older homes and institutional type houses closed down after Roe v. Wade made abortion widely available. The maternity homes of old were heavily slanted towards adoption, whereas today’s mothers are more likely to enroll in a maternity home because they have chosen to parent, although many do place their babies with a loving adoptive family after researching and wisely looking at all the positive possibilities surrounding adoption.

    In place of the large institutions, a variety of public and private financing for pregnant and parenting teens has arisen.

    Today’s maternity group homes tend to be much smaller, typically housing between two and six clients at a time. They come in all shapes and sizes. Some simply house women for the duration of the pregnancy, while others allow mothers to continue living in the home after the baby is born. This is called the “after care program.” This after care service can be extremely successful on many levels. It is critical for a young mother to succeed in living a productive life with her children if she first learns healthy parenting skills. Good self esteem and confidence are critical components to wise parenting. Many young women come from broken and fatherless homes themselves, so breaking the cycle of poverty and lower income preparedness is essential in building a healthy life for self and child. Most homes are likely to offer heavily structured programs that may include life skills, high school or college coursework, delivery classes and adoption alternatives, career help and resume building from staff and corporate volunteers. Most homes offer free services and thrive on the generosity of individual donors. Hidden Choices has only heard of a handful of homes that charge “fee for service.”

    Under the new rules of welfare reform in the 1990’s, pregnant teens ceased to be eligible for welfare benefits unless they were living with their families. So-called “second chance” or maternity homes were created to provide a stable and safe living environment for pregnant minors who couldn’t live with their families or who were kicked out of home by parents or teen boyfriends.

    In 2003 Maternity Homes became eligible for funding through the Transitional Living Program for homeless youth. Approximately $10 million per year is set aside for maternity group homes although of the transitional living programs funded in 2004 and 2005, only 19 identified themselves as maternity group homes. Maternity homes are also eligible for funding through the Administration for Housing and Urban Development. Some homes receive support from state and local governments.

    Private donations are critical sources of revenue for many homes, especially for the smaller religious maternity homes. Even homes that proudly refuse direct public funding apply for federal benefits for their clients, including food stamps and Medicaid.

    Maternity group homes vary widely in terms of admission criteria. Most publicly-funded programs serve teenagers and homeless women. Many private religious maternity homes exclusively serve adults. Some programs explicitly state that they do not cater to women who are fleeing domestic violence or struggling with substance abuse. Drugs are not an option for a pregnancy.

    Another aspect to expect. Residents have to commit in writing to carry their pregnancies to term.
    Whatver flavor of home you are fortunate to find, it takes courage to say yes to “having” a baby. “Smooth sails,” I always say. There are thousands who support you and thank you for having your baby.

  • Are You Ready To Be A Teenage Parent?

    Are You Ready To Be A Teenage Parent?

    Unplanned pregnancy does not mean making uninformed decisions. We all make decisions and choices on an hourly basis. Lfe is a forever decision
    Teen audiences around the globe are speaking out on the subject of teen pregnancy and unplanned parenting.  Thousands are saying NO to casual sex, knowing that the consequences can easily lead to early parenting.  They are waiting for the right time with maturity and forethought of what starting a family at 15, 16, 18 really means.. Remember the choice to have sex is also a responsibility

    8 HARD questions – Are You Ready To Be A Parent?

    • Am I ready to become a parent?
    • What if the father of my baby is not involved?
    • How much say or legal right does the father of my baby have?
    • How will I continue to achieve my personal goals through this pregnancy and afterwards?
    • How will having a baby change my life, my job, my schooling, my friends?
    • Do I have enough money to pay for child care, diapers, clothes and other baby things?
    • Where will I live?  How will I live?  Do I have enough money to live alone with my baby?
    • What will my child think of me if I choose adoption?
  • 10 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself

    10 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself

    • What’s best for your baby?
    • With your current education can you earn a living on your wages?
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    • Can you provide safe housing for yourself and your baby?
    • Do you have reliable transportation?  Or will you have the finances to take mass transit?
    • Do you have family support?
    • Can you afford child care?
    • Can you afford healthcare for you and your child?
    • Will you be able to go back to school?
    • How will you be able to afford your bills with your current job position?
    • Can you provide clothes for your growing child?

     

  • Maternity Home Locator

    Maternity Home Locator

    Find a Maternity Home Near You:

    Click on a state or list maternity homes by country to view maternity homes listed in the National Association of Maternity Homes Directory

     

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